' Brihadaranyaka Upanishad '...

"It is not for the sake of the husband that the husband is dear,
but for the Self.


"It is not for the sake of the wife that the wife is dear,
but for the Self.


"It is not for the sake of the children that the children are dear,
but for the Self."


--Brihadaranyaka Upanishad, 2.4.4-5

in Andrew Wilson, ed.
World Scripture: A Comparative Anthology of Sacred Texts
NY: International Religious Foundation, 1991, p. 677