Under heaven all can see beauty as beauty
only because there is ugliness.
All can know good as good only because there is evil.
Therefore having and not having arise together.
Difficult and easy complement each other.
Long and short contrast each other;
High and low rest upon each other;
Voice and sound harmonize each other;
Front and back follow one another.
Therefore the sage goes about doing nothing, teaching no-talking.
The ten thousand things rise and fall without cease.
Creating, yet not possessing.
Working, yet not taking credit.
Work is done, then forgotten.
Therefore it lasts forever.
Tao Te Ching
Translation by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English
Vintage Books Edition, September 1972
To give sympathy is sovereignty, to desire it from others is captivity.
Bowl of Saki, by Hazrat Inayat Khan
Commentary by Pir-o-Murshid Inayat Khan:
Although sometimes it gives a tender sensation in the heart to say, 'Oh, how poorly I am', and it is soothing to hear from someone, 'Oh, I am so sorry you are not well', yet I should think that one would prefer if another thing were said in sympathy, namely, 'I am so happy to see you are so well'. In order to create that tender sensation one need not be ill. What is needed is to be thankful. We can never be too thankful.
The first lesson given to man was to be grateful for his daily bread, because that was the greatest necessity of his life. Now that has become so simple and life has changed so much that man forgets to be thankful. He even thinks, 'Why should I give thanks?' He forgets that behind his own personality he covers God. His own toil seems more to him than the toil of every atom of nature that is preparing blessings for him.
Self-pity is the worst poverty; it is the source of all unhappiness and blinds man to all he should be thankful for. The constantly complaining habit and the tendency to demand sympathy from others bring the greatest thorn into man's life: he becomes dependent upon the sympathy of others. The best thing is to give sympathy.
The Long Path is needed to make a man or woman ripe for receiving truth, but only the Short Path can lead to it.
This is the answer to the dilemma created by the claims of the Wu Wei school.
Its practical application is:
act as the Long Path requires by working on and improving the self, but think as the Short Path enjoins by holding the attitude "There is nothing to be attained.
Realization is already here and now!"
-- Notebooks Category 23: Advanced Contemplation >
Chapter 5: Balancing the Paths > # 154
Walking in the woods with no compass or idea where you are or why you got yourself in that position is akin to the majority of humans. As long as the ‘ego’ doesn’t think it’s lost, no help can be payed attention to. To have ‘no ego’ is not possible if like most you have a small one and think you can scoot or ‘back out of it, but if you payed attention, your ego is like a roller coaster - up and down. The ego, which rarely is not small, occasionally puffing up to a ‘big ego’ is an aspect of you to keep you on a rope or leash for everyone to pull this way and that.. As my investigative reporter friend, Jon Rappoport said, ‘’The ordinary mind is built on its own national security program. It protects itself from intrusions it considers disruptive.’’
Small ego’s constantly get erected from time to time when they think there is a need to censor communication attempts, likely before the communication gets off the ground. Walking on ‘eggshells’ with what you say to another is their unconscious form of censoring you, and certainly it could be you doing it to others to protect a small ego too. Communication that is sporadic is insufficient for any bonding of minds and feelings. Most have a shield in the mind to protect what they refuse to examine for barriers to a comforting harmony that has no fear of ‘verbal tentacles’, and their wounds to further connection.
To miscommunicate is what it says, ‘to miss communication’ and that leads to misinterpretations as well as the likely- hood of an unfavorable communication. (Of course, a miscommunication could have nothing to do with ego.) To ‘miss’ communicate also has the non quality of not being able to venture into certain subjects with a dialog of no barriers or censorship daggers that backfire. Rigidity of openness to communicate, both with yourself and others, is to stifle inner growth, and of course for the one who ‘stifles’ communication.
There is no easy way for dealing with a shifting ego, but then again it’s worth a more harmonious life to focus either on your ego fluctuations, or be forever at the mercy of not having the skills. To begin addressing ego controls of yourself and others, first accept yourself as much as you have the courage to. Use the spiritual technique of ‘skillful means’ with a light sense of humor to seek the best of options in responding to another and addressing another who has areas of ‘reactivity’. Self censorship and conscious walking on eggshells with skill may avoid engagements that are emotionally toxic. The key is a sense of giving with skillful means, which is a high spiritual quality, and at the same time there is being able to ‘receive’ with skill from another.
Seek the tools of meditating to let go and smooth out your communications. You are surrounded by a sea of abundance. You are alive - be aware and proactive in a universe that’s overflowing with possibilities. Always be focused on you inner growth.
"Inside this new love, die.
Your way begins on the other side.
Become the sky. Take an axe to the prison wall.
Walk out like someone suddenly born into color.
Do it now.
You’re covered with thick cloud.
Slide out the side.
Die, and be quiet.
Quietness is the surest sign that you’ve died.
Your old life was a frantic running from silence.
The speechless full moon comes out now."
The opposite of Love is not Hate,
The opposite of Love is egoic construction..
If you want the universal goal of Happiness,
you must surrender this desire to be separate from Happiness,
which we call Love..
The false self called ego is not You..
Egoic attachment is a parasite upon Happiness..
This is why the egoic desires are dissolved daily..
Freedom is found by moving past this addiction to selfishness...
Souls speak to me of redemption and apologising..
I speak to you as soul to soul..
I will speak only Truth..
Why Lie ?..
I will speak to you of the fourth dimension..
The lowest part of the fourth dimension contains entities..
These souls are lost..
There are so many..
So many that you know..
So many that you do not know..
The Secret of Life is to move beyond them..
So many sentences,
I agree with you, except the part of redemption..
The Actors within this Play are not Real...
What is Deem ?..
What needs to be redone ?..
We are Consciousness,
but,, are constantly trapped within written words..
When We enter the Door,
where will We walk ?..