...Identification...

Identification means that we mentally and emotionally lose ourselves in something inside or outside of us..We become absorbed in a person, a place, our career, a hobby, our personal viewpoints, almost anything..We lose our thoughts in these things in an attempt to feel secure..We hope to gain an idea of who we are,,we want to cling to something that seems permanent......But they give us no security,,they create just the opposite, , The moment we identify with anything,, we become afraid of losing it....And since all things change,, we get hurt when the object of our attachment is threatened, or when it goes away.....This is why, we fear losing our ego,,because we fear that we will lose our identity....but the loss of the false ego is the only way that we can find our real identity............Vernon Howard