Blame...

We blame others for our sorrows and misfortunes, not perceiving that we
ourselves are the creators of our world.

Bowl of Saki, by Hazrat Inayat Khan

Commentary by Pir-o-Murshid Inayat Khan:

Externally we are a single being, but internally we are a world. As vast as is
the world around us, so vast is the world within. Asif says, 'The limitation of
the sky and land cannot be compared with man's heart. If man's heart be wide,
there is nothing wider than this.' All can be accommodated in it; heaven earth,
sun, moon, all are reflected in it. It becomes itself the whole. This world
becomes as one chooses to make it. If man only knew that! But since he does not
know that, the world is not heaven, but has become its opposite. We blame others
for our sorrows and misfortunes, not perceiving that we ourselves are the
creators of our world; that our world has an influence upon our life within as
well as upon our life without.

One learns to understand that there is a world in one's self, that in one's mind
there is a source of happiness and unhappiness, the source of health and
illness, the source of light and darkness, and that it can be awakened, either
mechanically or at will, if only one knew how to do it. Then one does not blame
his ill fortune nor complain of his fellow man. He becomes more tolerant, more
joyful, and more loving toward his neighbor, because he knows the cause of every
thought and action, and he sees it all as the effect of a certain cause.