Rough handling...

I am amazed at the seeker of purity who when it's time to be polished
complains of rough handling.

Love is like a lawsuit: to suffer harsh treatment is the evidence;
when you have no evidence, the lawsuit is lost.

Don't grieve when the Judge demands your evidence;
kiss the snake so that you may gain the treasure.

That harshness isn't toward you, O son, but toward the harmful qualities within you.

When someone beats a rug, the blows are not against the rug, but against the dust in it.


Jalaluddin Rumi
Mathnawi III: 4008-4012