Love...

If we really look, surely we can see we are built for loving. We are built open, as capacity for the other one.

If one experiences oneself as space for the other, one listens, one looks, one attends to the other. And the other one feels attended to, feels entertained and valued, because after all if you have nothing where you are, no face, no thing at all, that other one is doing you a marvelous service of supplying you with this fascinating scene.

It means that I'm going to let others be what they are, because space has no way of manipulating and using and exploiting them. Space is very patient, very hospitable.

This is a totally different thing from the imagined basis of our personal relationships, which is a symmetrical one. In a certain sense it is the very basis of loving.


~ From: Open to the Source, by Douglas Harding