Unselfish Love...

It is a very high stage on the path of love when a man really learns to love
another with a love that asks no return.

Bowl of Saki, by Hazrat Inayat Khan

Commentary by Pir-o-Murshid Inayat Khan:

The nature of life on earth is illusory and in the Sanskrit tongue it is called
Maya or illusion, and every soul having the spark of the divine love, forgets
the use and the purpose of that spark and begins to love itself most.

By a keen study of human life, man will find that as a rule, when he claims that
he loves, in reality he loves himself, he loves his own benefit in life, he
loves another for the help that other gives, for his goodness, for his kindness,
for his service, but in all this he surely loves himself, and it is for himself
all the while he thinks he loves another.

It is a very high stage in the path of love when man really learns to love
another with a love that asks no return, when he does not seek love for the sake
of love in return, then love becomes pure, the lover gives, and gives and gives,
but even that is not the purpose of life, it is still greater. The Perfect One
who is the source and origin of the whole creation, is the Perfection of Beauty.
All beauty on earth or in heaven belongs to Him, and the purpose of the creation
of every soul is to progress in the path of love until the soul arrives at a
stage where it may find the Perfection of Beauty.

The development of love is often hindered by different obstacles in life. The
first obstacle is ourselves. We begin our life with selfishness, and all that we
want is for self, and if there is a tendency to love, it is for one's own
happiness, and one's own joy. When the question comes, 'How much do you love me,
and how much do I love you?' it has come to be a trading in love. 'I love you,
but you do not love me' is as much as to say, 'I have bid so much, and I expect
a return of love'. This is trading in love, and trade cannot lead anywhere,
because it makes one think of the self, and love is beyond that. To love is to
give; it is not to take at all. The true lover never speaks of what he has done
for his beloved, for he loves for love's sake, not for the sake of a return.

To what does the love of God lead? It leads to that peace and stillness which
can be seen in the life of the tree, which bears fruits and flowers for others
and expects no returns, not even thanks in return. It serves, and cares for
nothing else, not even for appreciation. That is the attribute of the godly.