self control...

"People don't control themselves, their own lives, and yet they want to control
the world. As a matter of fact, there is a law involved in that. The less
control an individual has over his own internal state, the more he will be
compelled, forced, whipped along to try to control other people. Because this
means that in this state of weakness, of immaturity, he's going to try to get
rid of the pain of the fact by trying to prove that he does have power. And what
he does is hurt, what he does is destroy, all unconscious, not seeing that his
own lack of internal command of himself, of his life - spiritual command - not
seeing that his own lack of that is what spurs him on and this is the cause of
all the destruction in the world."............Vernon Howard