' Controlling Others '...

"Let's see why a man wants to control and influence another person. He may hope for a material advantage, such as money. But there is a deeper motive, a dangerously self-defeating motive. By having power over others, he thinks it confirms his possession of a separate ego, a separate self - for where there is the commanded, there must also be the commander. So in order to preserve the illusion of being a commander, he seeks every opportunity to control and influence people and events. But since he does not, in reality, possess a separate self, the whole show is a tragic delusion. Sooner or later the curtain must come down on the actor, leaving him frightened and lonely."..................................... The Esoteric Path to a New Life, p. 34.......Vernon Howard